Sometimes I sit here and think about where we are and how we got here. It's been quite a bit of fun along the way!
We met in 2005ish? I honestly don't remember when we met (but this is close). I had gotten my first male roommate and he was a sweetheart. He was my best friends frat brother. And boy was he a nerd! And along with him came some nerdy friends. And one of those friends was Komla. At the time he had a very nice girlfriend and he and I slowly became friends. We would alternate meeting on campus and driving to church together on Sundays and Wednesdays for Bible Study. We'd go out to eat sometimes with our mutual friends and it was really nice to have a guy who wasn't hitting on me to hang out with. Through the years we hung out and made sure to keep in touch when he went on his summer internships. We'd talk about who we were dating and I gotta say, girls are very entertaining. Especially through the eyes of the guys they're dating LOL! It was a good friendship we had. I learned a lot not only about him but about myself. In 2009 he went on his last internship. I think it was to Charlotte? Anyways, that was easily the worst summer we'd had. We talked as much as we always did but that was the first time I really really missed him being around. When he came back we fell back into our routine. Sunday, Wednesday and a few meals scattered around. We also started hanging out with a group of people after Wed. Bible Study and making memories! That was also the time that I started looking at my "friend" through new eyes. I always knew he was intelligent and such a good friend to me, but also to the others around him. I thought back to how he'd always treated the girls he dated. So much respect never the player who strung girls along...He was always open and honest with them. And he was open and honest with all his friends. And he has some really great friends. The kind of friends he's known since grade school and they are so tight today, even though they don't all live close. I started throwing out hints to him that i'd be interested in dating and I'll be darned if he ignored me! LOL So in December, I decided it was time for us to have a serious talk about our relationship and see if he was also interested in giving this a serious chance. *Side Note* He claims that he had tried previously to see if I would be interested but I always said I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship - I think he brought it up in a general way, not in a specific to us way. Either way, I wasn't ready then so nothing serious would have worked* Ok backt to what I was saying, we went to Olive Garden and I didn't think it'd be as hard as it was. He wasn't going to make it easy on me. Best dinner EVER! Though I don't remember the meal at all... And that as they say is history! We went into it knowing that this was not going to be a casual dating experience. More of a courtship with the intent to see if we believed that God has marriage in HIS plans for us. So that said, we saved the more uh intimate events for marriage :-) We spent lots of time together and we went on a cruise with 4 friends and it was an amazing 6 months. (I have been told that you should see the man/woman you wish to marry in many situation before marriage and see how they act to being in new surroundings, pay attention to how they treat the "help" or those who are serving them) And in June, on the 29th, he arranged for his mother, aunt and I to have an early dinner at a fantastic restaurant - J. Alexanders in Nashville on West End) - And towards the end of dinner, my mother walked in and I hopped up to greet her (so confused as to why she was there...) and when I turned around Komla was down on one knee and he said something to the effect of -"will you marry me?" And I said " are you serious? (about 3 times) before I finally said yes! I was very surprised as he had recently had been offered a wonderful job in MD and was preparing to make the move. I was hoping to follow at some point. (Almost over for those of you still reading :) So he moved and about a month later an opportunity to transfer with my job came up. I worked for a major airline and at the time, transfers were few and far between. We linked up with a wonderful church here and began taking a premarital courses. Very informative and lots of fun. Though there were moments I thought the instructors had lost their minds! And in the end, we decided we were still going to get married! I am not a planner by nature so a wedding for me would be quite expensive as I'd want to hire someone to plan the whole thing with my only decisions being the dress and the flavor of cake! We decided to not spend the money on a big wedding (both have HUGE families thanks to very fertile grandparents!) And we opted for an intimate immediate family only wedding on New Years Eve 2010 in Annapolis. At the sweetest most wonderful chapel. It was such an awesome experience. We had 12 guest and we took them to his favorite restaurant for a wonderful family dinner. They only thing I felt I missed out on was the 1st dance (I'm a terrible dancer though so that was probably for the best) And the cake cutting - I love a good piece of cake! So,that's our story. We have truly enjoyed our first year of marriage. Its not without its ups and downs. But it has been wonderful. I married an amazingly loving, patient, kind, giving man. And I am so blessed by him daily! (Hear him tell it, he knew it years before I did that God designed me for him :-)
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