Well I've been thinking about that. Thanks to the world of social networking we all have TONS of "friends". But when it comes down to it, how many of those people on your friends list will you call if you have a problem? How many of them actually mean it when they say, "call me if you need anything"?
What does friendship mean to you? I have been reminded recently that I have been immensely blessed with some AMAZING friends! People that I can count on to be there for me when I need them. Even when they are on the other side of the country. And friends who don't always expect me to be happy or only to call them when things are going great. I asked a friend recently why she hadn't called in a while I've only gotten a few texts from her. She said she thought I hadn't been talking to her as much because "you are a wife and have wifely things to do" and she thinks she's " being respectful to my relationship". Let me let you all in on a little secret. Being married does change things. Your priorities do shift. Your spouse is the most important person on the earth to you BUT that doesn't mean your other relationships are not important. Of course things like calling at 2am when you leave the club just to vent about how crappy it is or calling about your latest booty call (if that's your thing) will have to change. Call during normal hours and your married friend will probably be thrilled to hear from you. And if she's doing "wifely" duties, she'll either not answer and call you back or she'll answer and tell you she's busy but wants to talk so she'll call you back. And if there's no answer, leave a message or send a text. A true friend will get back to you. An important thing to remember when you're married is to not let your other relationships lapse just because you're now married. Its not healthy to be completely wrapped up in another person, even when that person is your spouse. Its good when you each have other friends to enjoy time with. I mean I love my husband but I also love talking to other people. And with the move, I miss seeing my friends so talking to them makes me feel so much closer to them! I can't wait for more of them to get married. Then hopefully they'll understand why the balance is so necessary and that while depending on the situation (kids or no kids) it may not be super easy but it isn't impossible. Ok I feel like I've been rambling. This has already been quite the emotional week and its only Tuesday!!! But I know it'll get better :-)
I haven't been so great at nurturing my friendships I could do better!
ReplyDeleteMrs.P This is something I think most of us need to work on. It does get harder as our lives change and our families grow but I think those true friendships get more important when our lives change and our families grow.
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