A few years ago I made the difficult decision to ask my best friend and roommate at the time to leave. We had known each other since the 3rd grade, we moved across the country to go to college together. Amazing how much you learn about a person (and yourself) when you make a drastic change like moving away from home and being on your own for the first time. And after a few years I had learned enough about us both to know that it was time for us to part ways. Unfortunately neither of us was mature enough at the time to do it in a way that would even allow for the possibility of us becoming friends again in the future. I wish we had been able to do that. I did the best I knew how at that time. It truly makes me sad though to have gotten married and she wasn't someone I called, she won't be there when I have my children and I wasn't there when she had hers. I've looked at what happened between us and I know that due to circumstances our friendship would have ended anyways but it doesn't make it hurt any less...
I leave you with this - Doing the right thing is ALWAYS right, just not always easy!
You are absolutely correct on this one dearheart...
ReplyDeleteIt still surprises me how sad I get about losing that friendship. Even knowing it was a toxic one... Ah well, live and learn :-) Reason, season or lifetime! Everyone fits into one of those!
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